4 Things to Remember When Your Parent Moves

When I pass retirement communities, there’s something about them that makes me think, “I would move in now. Someone please take care of me.” But when people like ...

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4 Things to Remember When Your Parent Moves

Posted by Lee Tessier on Monday, July 25th, 2016 at 9:42am.

When I pass retirement communities, there’s something about them that makes me think, “I would move in now. Someone please take care of me.” But when people like our parents are offered the chance to move in, the pride in their home takes over and they insist that they won’t move. Plenty of times this doesn’t happen and the residents of retirement communities are taking advantage of this new stage of life, but we all know that, for some people, it’ll take a fall or medical problems to consider moving. And, between seniors and their adult children, this can be a tough fight. We asked Andy Anderson, the Executive Director at Bel Air’s Brightview Avondell, why this is. Basically,

Our Generations Are Completely Different

The people living in or soon to move into retirement communities grew up during some of the harshest times in recent history. After witnessing the Great Depression and at least one World War, our parents learned early on that waste is unacceptable. Not to mention the way senior-care has changed from nursing homes where people go to die into communities with planned outings and space for hobbies. So where we might see an easy lifestyle and optimal comfort, they might not understand why someone would want to move. Because, as nice as it might be…

The Biggest Competition Is Their Own Home

After between 40 – 60 years, our parents are being asked to give up what they worked their adult lives for. This last major life change can be scary because, on top of leaving their memories, seniors risk losing their independence as well – who’s telling them to move? Their kids. No one wants to be weak and no one wants to lose their independence, but that’s what they might see happening. While a quick move (around 90 days) can be necessary to keep seniors safe, a good move usually takes between 1 – 2 years from first meeting to move-in ready to make sure they’re happy with the decision. But as anyone moving a parent can tell you, this is easier said than done because…

Stuff Adds Up After Sixty Years

Going from a 2,000 Sq Ft home to a 2 BR apartment means that not everything is going to fit. But if sentiment is getting in the way of realistically downsizing, moving out can get stuck at a standstill. It’s important to remember that if your parent won’t listen, won’t downsize, won’t part with anything…they probably just don’t want to move. This is the part of the process where it’s very important to be listening to their concerns. When moves become necessary because of things like falls and declining health, services like Senior Move Managers exist to specialize in a smooth moving transition. They also come from a less emotionally-invested place and know how to move the letting go process along. But even when things do start to move along…

Don’t Be Too Quick to Call Your Realtor

Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for seniors to get scared and back out of moving after their house has already been sold. Even though many retirement communities place a huge importance on services they provide and the company of people, moving is still a big change to feel open to. When figuring out the best time to put your parent’s house on the market, it’s important that this isn’t until they’re absolutely ready to move. You may have an empty house for a little while if you do sell, but this protects you and your parent from any undue stress or expenses if anything changes. There is a difference, though, between giving your parent flexibility and leaving the house empty long term – repairs and updates can spring up if their house is unoccupied and unlisted.

The important thing is that decisions on selling fit into the overall plan for your parent’s moving process to keep things smooth and running. With ease and comfort being the big factors behind this kind of move, your biggest asset at every level is remembering to plan ahead and think big-picture.

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